Ron Chapman, Western meditation teacher: "1)You will condemn them for the very things you married them for; not because they changed on you or because you misjudged them originally but the very same things. 2) If I choose a dishonest partner, the dishonesty is also mine! [You can't cheat an honest lover!] 3) You might lose if you do not lie but you will certainly lose if you do. 4) Love is a relationship with yourself. All relationships are with yourself."

Nathaniel Branden Psychologist 1)Unconsciousness is always the enemy -and consciousness/awareness, acceptance and expression is the solution. 2) This is the paradox: only when we stop fighting the fact of our aloneness are we ready for romantic love. 3) Intimacy pertains to the sharing of self on the deepest level, an exchange of vulnerability. 4) A friend, said Aristotle, is another self. This is precisely what lovers experience to the most intense degree. In loving you I encounter myself. 5) To love selflessly is a contradiction in terms. 6) The primary issue is not between us and other people. It is between us and ourselves."

Monica Rice Wendling, psychotherapist: "1) We are each 50% of whatever relationship we are in. 2) We magnetically draw to us partners who will provide exactly the right mutual fit for each of us to work through our "unfinished business" from the past. 3) Since we do seek out significant people in our life with whom to recreate the same emotional dynamics with the parent we most sought love from, we will continue to feel unloved and unfulfilled until we become conscious of the patterns."

Werner Ehrhart, est. (overheard remark): "Until we resolve our source relationship, we are never really in another relationship."

Liz Greene, psychologist and astrologer: "Nothing comes into a man's life that is not a reflection of something within himself."

"THIS WORLD IS A HALL OF MIRRORS."